Am I a good mom? I always say that “as soon as my first baby was born, so was the mom guilt.” I know that I constantly try so hard to be a “Good Mom” that I sometimes forget what actually makes a mom “good.” And I know that I am not the only one who feels this way. From my personal experience, my children are one of the best parts of my life and they are the reason I get out of bed in the morning and the reason I go to bed at sort of a reasonable time. I’m still working on that part! HA!
As women, we are constantly judging ourselves and hoping that what we are doing is the correct thing. Most moms are insecure about their parenting and create this image of the perfect mom and strive for perfection to only be let down from not achieving whatever that image may be. We need to not be so hard on ourselves. Because the way our children look at us is not how we see us. Just the other day I was laying in my son’s bed, and it was a rough day for everyone, I was laying there thinking while they were getting ready for bed. Without warning suddenly, all four of my children came running in and jumped on top of me. It was such a special moment, and, in that moment, I felt like a “good Mom.”
Do you worry yourself at night about whether you made the right choices during the day. Are your children clean, fed, and loved? Do you make time for them during the day? Do you show them that you love them? If you said yes to all of these questions, then you are doing great and keep up the good work. If you’re up at 2 a.m. scrolling through google trying to find “tricks to being a good mom,” then let me ease your mind by saying:
You are a Good Mom and stop beating yourself up!
And remember, Life is full of Cupcakes & Monsters!
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One response to “An Open Letter to the Good Mom”
Sweet, Audra. Well written! I love you.